Chapter 7&8 : Interpersonal relationship

Interpersonal Relationship

1. An interpersonal relationship is a strong, deep, or close association or acquaintance between two or more people that may range in duration from brief to enduring. This association may be based on inference, love, solidarity, regular business interactions, or some other type of social commitment.
2. Conversation Process:

• Opening - this is the first step of conversation saying "Hi, wassup, yo"
• Feedforward - is the second stage of the conversation

1. to open the channels of communication "perfect day, nice mood, isn't it?"
2. preview future message "Hey, I got something to tell ya"

• Business - is typically third stage of the conversation and message portion as well
• Feedback - the fourth stage of the conversation and also considers as a response stage "Thanks dude, for telling me good news"
• Closing - is the last stage of the conversation, obviously such as "Good bye, take care"

Relationship Stages

  1.Contact
     The first stage of a relationship, where people become aware of one another's existence – impersonal and almost ritualized.

•  Perceptual = human senses (sight, smell, taste, hear, touch).
•  Interactional = First point of contact; “Hello my name is Nika” and other non-verbal gestures. 

         For Asians, this is the stage where both parties are still shy and                      distance from each other. 

  

  2.Involvement

     Second stage of relationship where people have tighter bonds and engagements with one another – expect light bonds of friendship and being added into the social circle.
Testing stage = “Hey, do you want to come out for a drink?”; “Do you like this song?”; “Are you a Manchester United fan as well?”
Intensifying stage = The amount of times or commitments you committed to one another – appointments, dating, etc.

3. Intimacy

     Third stage of relationship where people have a deep and committed relationship with one another – relationships grow stronger, explicit displays of affection, communication and bond with one another. 
At this stage, you’ve become familiar and comfortable with each other.

4.Deterioration 

    Reality hurts: At some stage, everybody grows up. You would be considered lucky if you are still close to your childhood friends when you are an adult – often we see and experience changes with people and even ourselves in our lives due to different stages of life (youth, young adult, adults, etc.) that has different priorities.

5. Repair

  Fifth stage of relationship where those affected in the

     deterioration stage try to work things out with one another. 

     Intrapersonal – you may consider changing your behaviors or perhaps changing your expectations of your partner

      Interpersonal – you talk and discuss about the problems.

6. Dissolution

   Sixth and last stage of relationship where bonds are broken or returned  back to a platonic (before friendship or neutral level).

   

     EX: you separate yourself from the person you don’t like or have differences  with, or you separate yourself from the group that you hang out with because  you don’t agree with their lifestyle.

 

    Interpersonal separation – you may not see each other anymore or may not return messages, move into separate apartments.

    Social or public separation – avoidance of each other and a return to being“single” (divorce)